I shut down when I feel like no ones listening to me…why?
For each temperament this could be different. Depending on your temperament, you may be shutting down because you do not have the energy to deal with the rejection that can come along with not feeling heard. Or, you may feel that you would be rejected even further if you confronted the situation. So, you decide it would be better to push those feelings down which causes more pain.
I am not getting validation at home…what do I do?
For some people, getting validation from the people around them may not happen. You may feel that you are constantly fighting an uphill battle. You may also feel that you will never find the relief you need from them. If you are struggling to get validation from the people you value most and are not getting it, you may benefit from professional help. They may be able to help you get the validation you need and heal from past and present rejections.
Also, learning to ask the Holy Spirit for the validation you desperately need will help give you peace. Reading the bible and reading scriptures aloud that uplift, encourage, and remind you who you are in Him will boost your confidence.
Psalm 34:17-18 says, “The Lord hears his people when they call to him for help. He rescues them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those who are crushed in spirit”. The Lord will never reject you and he will always hear you. You can be comforted by knowing that he wants to take any and all pain away from you.
If you are struggling with past or present rejections and want to stop carrying them into your future, contact us we can help.