I can’t say no to people…I try but every time I feel guilty and say yes even though I want to say no…Why?
Some temperaments struggle with creating boundaries and saying no to people. They fear that if they say no to someone then they may be rejected. So instead, they agree to do more than they can handle. This can lead to feelings of anger and rejection. It is because they may not have gotten recognition for the things that they have done. They may now feel taken advantage of.
I feel taken advantage of even though it was ME that couldn’t say no.
For certain temperaments this can feel like a lose lose situation. If you say no then you may be rejected for saying no. And, if you say yes (which usually happens) you may cause yourself more stress. You may now be taking on too much and if you do not get recognition for what you have done, that too can make you feel rejected.
Learning to get your acceptance and recognition from your Heavenly Father can help you find peace. It will also help you get the recognition that you need.
Ephesians 1:6-7 says, “So we praise God for the wonderful kindness he has poured out on us because we belong to his dearly loved Son. He is so rich in kindness that he purchased our freedom through the blood of his Son, and our sins are forgiven.” This is a reminder that Jesus accepted you and paid the ultimate price for you.
If you struggle to create healthy boundaries with people at work, at home, at church, or any other relationship in your life contact us. We can help you create those healthy boundaries and tell you why you are struggling to say no to people.