You may have come from a family of divorce and it seems like everyone around you is getting or has gotten divorced. Coming from a broken family and establishing deep relationships, especially romantic, can be very difficult.
I date people I know I have no future with…why?
Everyone has coping skills to help them deal with different situations and different aspects of their lives. For some people that might mean biting their nails when they get nervous watching a football game. For others, it may mean staying away from people that they feel could hurt them because they want to protect themselves. So, in turn, they date people they know they would have no attachment to if the other person decided to leave. And then, they can never get hurt.
I want to get married and have a family someday but I am scared I will end like my parents…in divorce.
A lot of people have this fear, not just people who have come from a broken home. Life is not like a fairy tale. It takes a lot of hard work and so does a marriage; or any other relationship. Expecting to find the right person for you and there not be ups and downs is just not realistic. Everyone has different life experiences and things that molded them into the person they are. It may not be until later down the road that you are aware of those things; and if not dealt with, it can lead to issues in your relationship with them.
Next week we will finish with this series and talk about how to move past the pains and fears of a broken family and find healing. Also, we will answer the question, “How does temperament fit in?”. If you are struggling to find healing and you need help, contact us.