From Opponents to Teammates

Earlier this week we talked about feeling unappreciated. Something that most people can say they have experienced feeling in their relationship.

We also talked about how feeling unappreciated can lead to bickering which can do damage to a marriage; or any relationship.

How do we become teammates once again?

Think of an actual team. A team not only takes the wins, they also take the loss together. If you think of you and your spouse that way, you will begin to understand why it is so important that you are one.

If you and your spouse bicker about who does more and should be appreciated more then both of you lose. Just like a team. If someone on the team misses a touchdown, the whole team suffers that loss. Not just the person who missed. And when one teammate makes a touchdown, the whole team celebrates and benefits from those points.

Mark 10:7-9 it says:

“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother, and the two shall become one flesh; so they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

How do we each get the appreciation we need?

Sometimes we are so focused on our own needs that we forget about our spouses. Instead of focusing on your need for appreciation, focus on your spouses. Make it a point to notice the things they do for you and thank them for it on a regular basis.

Also, ask the Holy Spirit to give you the validation that you need because he will always give it to you in full. Change the way you think about your service. Remember when you are serving others you are serving Him and you are doing it for Him.

If you and your spouse are struggling, contact us.