You may think that one of the most common problems in a marriage is finances. You are right and wrong. It is not just the finances that causes the stress, it goes much deeper than that.
Knowing your spouses temperament and them knowing and understanding your temperament can relieve stress when it comes to finances. Depending on your temperament you may be unknowingly stressing them out; or they may have told you they are stressed about it but not in a way that you could understand.
Finances and Temperament
Some of the temperaments struggle with the feeling of not having enough money. They may need to keep a certain amount of cash on them at all times in order for them to feel secure. They may also need to have a certain amount in their bank account at all times. Other temperaments may struggle with the impulse to spend money more often and may not think of the consequences of spending that money until it is too late and they are past due on their bills.
If you are married to a temperament that is opposite of you in this area, this could cause a lot of strain in your marriage.
Finances and Marriage
Security is very important in a marriage whether that be physical, emotional, or financial security. Finances are not usually the root of the problem but just a part of the problem, feeling secure is usually the issue. One spouse may need the security of knowing that they have the money to pay the bills, have a certain amount in their account, and enough saved for an emergency. If their partner does not need that same security and spends a lot of money leaving just enough to pay bills but no money to save or put into their account, that can cause immense stress for their spouse. That stress on their spouse will lead to stress in their relationship.
If you and your spouse are struggling to understand each others views on finances in your marriage, Contact us we can help.