TVHP: The Writing on the Window
I have learned a lot about the parent I am and the parent I strive to be. Most of the time, my learning is through the experiences that I have had with my son. And unfortunately, those are also the times when I have felt that I have failed in some way.
But the Lord has shown me things through those experiences that I feel are important to share. He also redeems me and is teaching me how to be the parent he wants me to be.
One thing that I have learned is that a child does not think like an adult.
Seems pretty obvious right?
Yet I see adults(me included) expecting their children to “know” things that they would not know as children unless they have been previously taught.
And even then, the circumstance was not the same as the previous. So, they really would not “know” the behavior is wrong. That seems confusing so I will give you my own personal example.
When my son started drawing with crayons I explained to him that we only draw on paper, not the walls. I would remind him when he was younger before he started so that he would know. As he got a little older I stopped reminding him which worked out well.
One day we were getting ready to leave and I noticed that there were crayon marks on the window…like a lot. I was frustrated and asked him sternly if he had drawn on the window. He was teary eyed and said, “yes mama I just wanted to make you happy”. I immediately realized that my response could have been better. I immediately swept him up and gave him a kiss and said I was sorry. And that I should not have gotten so upset.
Next week I will continue with this experience and give you some understanding on, What the Lord Showed Me.
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