TVHP: Will You Play With Me?

“Mama will you play with me?”

This is something that I hear quiet often from my son. Looking back there have been times where I should have stopped what I was doing and taken time to spend with him.

There are days when it feels like I couldn’t possible have time to get everything done that I need to.

In those moments, I have encouraged my son to play by himself for a little bit. I wasn’t really thinking about his temperament needs. Or, that he may have been feeling rejected.

I was not thinking about his temperament.

He is still too young to get a temperament profile, but I can already tell he has needs that need to be met that are not the same as mine. For example, he has more of a need to be around people, where as I have a need to NOT be around people very often. So, as he has gotten older, I have had to get him involved in activities with others. Which, is not always easy for me. But I do it because I know that he needs it.

Sometimes playing with kids is not fun…

I will be totally honest. I grew up with two sisters and boys are wild in comparison (at least mine is). They play differently then I did when I was growing up. When he asks me to play superhero’s with him, inside I’m screaming, “No!!!!!!”.  All superhero games involve my son (with his huge Hulk action figure) and me (with a much smaller superhero) smashing the figures together. I sit there with my eyes closed and winced face praying that my fingers don’t get smashed….again.

But its really not about that. I have to remind myself that he needs the human aspect of playing with me. I never want to look back and think that I should have given him more time. Or I caused him to feel rejected.

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