The Struggles of a Teenager-Divorce

Imagine the pain a child goes through when their parents have just told them that they are getting divorced. This would be earth shattering. The security blanket their family has been broken. Everything in their world is about to change.

It is sad that our society has accepted that divorce is “common”. Unfortunately divorce happens much too often and children are stuck in the middle of it carrying the pain of divorce with them.

How does divorce effect a teen or any child?

Children, pre-teens, and teens all struggle with trying to find their identity. For most children a large part of their identity is who they are in their family and also who their family is.

Rejection is something that comes along with divorce. Children will often blame themselves for the divorce and it can create deep pains and feelings of rejection.

Also, if children feel that they are forced to choose sides, it can cause immense emotional damage.

What can parents do to help children with the changes that come with divorce?

It is very important that they are not forced to choose sides. This also means never talking negatively about your ex-spouse in front of them. It is important that they know that no matter what happens that both of their parents love them and are there for them. As the adults in the situation it is critical that both the father and mother reinforce the importance of both parents having a healthy relationship with the children.

Divorce is hard on everyone involved. It can be hard to sort it out all on your own. Talking with a professional can be very beneficial for the entire family. It will also help your children cope with the changes and give them someone to talk to about the things that they are struggling with.

If you and your family are also going through a divorce and need help, contact us.