Temperaments and Love

Valentines day is when we celebrate LOVE! We don’t just celebrate romantic love, but love for our friends, family, and children.

Without understand temperament in the affection area, we can cause those around us pain. Real love misses out on a vital connection if we do not understand the needs of others and if they do not understand our needs.

Why would knowing my child’s temperament help?

Knowing your child’s temperament in the affection area will help you to understand how to show them love and affection to meet their needs. They may need to give and receive a lot of affection, or they may not. Understanding their needs will help you create a tighter bond, and more trust between you and them.

Why would knowing my spouse’s temperament help?

You may love romance and love to show affection to your spouse often. They may not need that much love and affection and they may not give that much love and affection. When they are not able to receive that love and affection the way you needed them to it can cause problems in a marriage. It can lead to hurt feelings, anger, and feelings of rejection. These are all things that temperament can show you about yourself and your spouse. They never intended to hurt you, they were just not able to understand or meet your needs.

Why won’t my spouse do romantic things for me? Don’t they love me?

For some of the temperaments romance is not something they understand. For example:

A husband comes home and all the lights are off in the house and there is a candle lit dinner sitting on the table. His reaction might be, ” Can we turn some lights on because I can’t see my food.”

For some people, this is very logical and makes sense (depending on their temperament) and for others, this could be very hurtful. Knowing your temperament and your spouses in the affection area will help you understand each others needs.

We can help you in communicating with your spouse and/or child, contact us.