My Spouse Hurts Me….Why?

My spouse hurts me…why? What is wrong with me? Why do I keep messing up? Its my fault he/she hits me. He/she tells me I’m stupid and they are right!

Sadly, a lot of women and men find themselves in abusive relationships. A lot of the time are not completely aware of it or they are in denial about what it really happening. The abuse usually starts out small. Maybe an insult here or there and then it progresses.

He/She never hits me, its just verbal.

Physical, verbal, emotional, economic, sexual, and psychological abuse are all detrimental to someone. Just because they are not hitting you does not make the suffering any less. Verbal abuse is equally painful and dangerous as physical abuse. As is emotional, economic, sexual, and psychological.

What do I do if I am in an abusive relationships?

Leaving an abusive relationship can be dangerous. A lot of the time the one being abused is verbally, physically, or even psychologically threatened. Seeking professional help is very important. It is important to have a plan in place so that if you decided to leave, there is safe network of people that can help you leave safely.

If you decide not to leave it would also be beneficial to seek professional help so that there is still a plan in case of an emergency. Getting yourself help is very important. Someone who has been abused, has suffered immense pain (physical and emotional) and needs to find help and healing. Also, building back your self-worth is very important. In an abusive relationship, that is usually one of the first things to go.

What if I am the abusive one?

You may be reading this and realized that you have been the abusive one and that things need to change. Later on this week we will be continuing this series and talk about what to do if you are the abuser.

If you are in a unhealthy relationship, contact us. We can help.