I Need To Be Around People And My Spouse Does Not Understand

You may enjoy being around people.

Being around other people may energize you and uplift you.

You may also be married to someone who does not like to be around people and seems to get stressed when they are around too many people.

Depending on each of your temperaments, this could cause stress in your relationship. You may feel rejected when your spouse does not want to go out with you.

My spouse always seems to want to be at home.

For some of the temperaments going out and being around people can be very stressful. The very thing that may energize you(being around a group of people) may do the exact opposite to them.

Both of your temperaments have needs that need to be met. One of those needs for you would be needing socialization. Your spouse’s need would be to be at home and not around a group of people.

How do my spouse and I both get our needs met without adding stress to either of us?

First it is important that you see a temperament counselor so that you know what each of your temperaments are and what your temperament needs are.

Then, once your temperaments have been identified, the counselor will be able to help guide you on your temperament. And also your spouses.

You will learn why you have a need to be around people and socialize.

And why your spouse has a need to stay home and not be around a lot of people.

This will also help you both deal with feelings of rejection that you may have had because of the difference in your temperament needs.

If you and your spouse are struggling to understand each other and feeling rejected, contact us. We can help you heal from that rejection and bring understanding to both you and your spouse.