Boundaries…And What To Do When They Are Broken

Earlier this week we went over “Boundaries…And Why They Matter”. But what happens when someone does not respect the boundaries you have made?

Do you feel like people in your life do not respect your boundaries or take them seriously?

Are you frustrated and do not know what to do when people do not respect your boundaries?

You may feel like people are always going to “walk all over you” and there is not real solution.

There are people in my life that do not respect my boundaries.

It can be extremely stressful and frustrating when the people in your life do not respect your boundaries. This may leave you feeling angry and resentful.

It is important to remember that the people in your life might not realize that you are feeling this way.

They may not understand that you were feeling pressured, stressed, used, or angry. Talking to them about it is very important.

There still may be people that do not understand what you want and need and you may need to make a contingency plan for those situations.

What is a contingency plan and how can it help me create boundaries?

You may be wondering what a contingency plan is. A contingency plan is:

 A plan or procedure that will take effect if an emergency occurs; emergency plan. (Dictionary.com)

In other words it is a plan created for futuristic situations that you may know will occur or could occur. So instead of having to come up with a course of action in the moment; you will be able to know what course of action to take.

For example:

Your co-worker, that does not seem to respect your boundaries, once again has done someothing that you have told them was not ok. Instead of having to worry about what plan of action to take, you have already made a plan on what to do if that ever occurred again.

If you are struggling to create healthy boundaries, contact us.