When Is Enough Enough….

If you are married you may have asked yourself this before.

You may be feeling misunderstood and alone and like there is not solution for your marriage.

My spouse doesn’t seem to understand me…will that ever change?

Knowing each of your temperaments can open the door to understanding for both you and your spouse. Marriage is a lot of work. Communication is very important. Everyone communicates differently. Each of you has needs that need to be met. Knowing your temperament and your spouses temperament means knowing what each others needs are. It will also teach you both how the other communicates.

Also, it will teach you how to express your own needs to your partner. Sometimes in life we think we are telling others what we want, but in reality, we are not telling them in a way that they understand.

Is there any hope for us?

Yes, but that does not mean that it will always be easy. Marriage takes a lot of work and sometimes you may need a third party to help you sort out some of the issues you may be having. Talking with a counselor who is trained in temperament counseling can help you and your spouse sort through those issues.

Also, realizing that marriage takes work everyday is vital. For example, when you plant a garden you do not just leave the plants to fend for themselves. You water them, make sure they get enough sunlight, and you pull the weeds that could choke them out. If you leave your marriage unattended it cannot grow or blossom. It also makes it easier for outside forces (weeds) to sneak in and choke your marriage out. Before you realize, your marriage has been invaded.

If you and your spouse need help in your marriage, contact us.