Well I was wrong…
When we were leaving after picking him up, a teacher stopped us and proceeded to tell us that he pulled his pants down…3 times. And that he “danced around the room with no pants on”.
First thing that I thought was, “that is hilarious” and I actually started laughing. I asked her if he went to the bathroom all 3 times and she said yes. I told her that he wasn’t dancing he was probably skipping to the bathroom(because he skips to the bathroom at home) and he probably did not know where the bathroom was(because it was the first time he’d been there). I told her that it was something that we would continue working on with him.
She then proceeded to repeat herself 3 more times about it as we was trying to walk away. And by then I was pretty angry. All I could think was, “Who is she to judge me or my son?” and “Why is this such a big deal?. He is a LITTLE KID.”
Then my anger turned to sadness.
All I could think was, “they better not have said anything to him to make him feel bad about himself”. So I made sure to let him know that it was ok and that we were going to practice going to the bathroom and taking our underwear off there. Which we did.
But I honestly had a hard time forgiving that person. I felt like they may have imprinted something negative on my son. I was angry that she even talked about it in front of him. I was angry that it was made into a big deal when it was NOT a big deal.
But forgiveness is a choice. I am to set an example to my son of what to do when someone has wronged him. I am also to be an example of God to others. There would have been nothing right in staying angry and not forgiving her. I also had to ask for forgiveness because I was so angry with her that I thought things I should not have.
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