Parenting…With or Without Temperament

Raising children can be extremely challenging. In fact, most parents would agree that it is the hardest job on the planet. A lot of those parents would also agree that it is also very rewarding.

Every parent child relationship has its ups and downs. There is no such thing as the perfect “Parent Manual” out there.

But, what if there was a way to understand your child in a way most parents could only dream of.

Good news! There is. It is called Temperament.

Temperament is who God created you to be in your mothers womb.

There are 3 parts to your temperament. They are (click the links for more information):

Inclusion which determines your “surface” relationships.

Control is the need to have and keep control and power in a relationship.

Affection is the need to give and receive love and affection.

How would knowing my childs temperament help me as a parent?

Your child may have temperament needs that you are not aware of. They may also be acting out because their needs are not being met and they do not know how to verbally tell you what those needs are.

For example :

Your child may have a temperament need to be around people. Because of that, it may stress them out to be secluded from people. Not knowing your childs temperament, you send them to their room as discipline. For some children, this form of discipline is perfectly fine. But, for your child it may make them feel extremely secluded, stressed, and rejected. This could lead them to continue to act out because their need was not being met.

If you knew their temperament, and that seclusion (even a little) would stress them out, you would be able to  come up with a different form of discipline.

If want to learn more about temperament and how it can help your family, contact us.

Also, on Wednesday, we will be continuing with this series and talk about when is a good age to find out your child’s temperament.